When I opened up my Google Chrome app to start this blog post, I took a quick scan at my open tabs. The usual: Facebook, Tasty on Buzzfeed, Ultimate Guitar, Gmail for both work and personal accounts. The last one, not-so-usual: North Vancouver RCMP. Why? Because yesterday I had to phone and make a report. Because yesterday a man followed me to a park. Because yesterday (and today) I feared for my safety and felt that I needed to notify law enforcement to be physically sure I was safe.
This is not okay. It's not fair that I am made to feel unsafe in my own neighbourhood. It's not fair that a man I don't even know has this power over me. It's not fair that I can't go to the park to have a little quiet and a prayer without fearing for my safety. It's not fair that this man has claimed this role in my life. It's not fair.
I've always been a pretty strong fighter towards injustice. I've always believed in equality. I've never felt too oppressed as a woman. The reason I was always a feminist was because I know there are woman in this world being oppressed day after day to the point of beatings, rapes and murders simply because of their gender. I knew that there are men out there who believe that I shouldn't be doing my job as a youth worker and missionary because I am a woman. I knew that the idea of going outside and having that split second thought of I best be on guard because what if... was always a source of anger for me because it's not a thought I should be having. I knew that there were reasons I was a feminist even though I had never felt oppressed myself. But all that changed yesterday.
I've always known what I am fighting for. I've always known why I fight for equality. But it was one of those things that I fought for in support of and not because I've felt it personally. A sister standing together with the sisters who feel the oppression daily. Fighting for the protection of women who deal with things that could happen to me but haven't yet. I've known the possibility of it happening to me but I've always blown past it thinking and knowing that Canada is a pretty progressive country compared to some. I've always felt fortunate to live in Canada where fighting for equality is something we do and is something that is heard. I'm thankful to have a leader who believes in woman's rights and who fights alongside us and the countless organizations helping our sisters near and far. But all that changed yesterday.
Yesterday was the first time I actually noticed my "weakness" -- for lack of a better word-- as a woman towards a man. I knew that if he decided to try something, there was little that I would have been able to do to stop it. The fact that he felt it was okay to harass me in that way makes me sick to my stomach. This is not okay. I don't know how many times I can say it, this is NOT okay.
I believe that God created us all equally. So to me it doesn't make sense that one gender would have authority over another. But that's what has come out of the brokenness in this world. Men feel it okay to treat women unjustly. Men feel it okay to say whatever they want to women. Men feel it okay to do whatever they want to women. And this is where the injustice, the inequality stands: men think they are greater than women. Not saying all men do, but a good portion of them do and that's what leads to a man following me to a park, stopping me several times and then whistling and staring at me from his car. That's what leads me to need to pack up my stuff, run to a nearby stranger and ask that I be walked home because I'm afraid that I could be harmed in some way.
This shouldn't be a fear. Women should not have to be raising up other women with the belief that they need to protect themselves because "you never know" We should feel a sense of safety with everyone we encounter. But because there is brokenness in this world, that's simply not the case. It pains me to know that what I'm feeling is only a small fraction of what many other women feel daily. It pains me to know that we live in a world that causes this kind of anxiety.
So with all that being said, I will continue to fight for equality. I will continue to push past the stigma of man being greater than woman. This encounter has only fuelled my fight more. It has only made me want to stand up taller, yell louder and fight harder. Because it's not okay that I am now afraid to go outside. Because it isn't fair that women all over the world are afraid of their fathers, brothers, husbands, sons or strangers. Because whether or not you declare yourself a feminist, you need to know that this is not okay.